For so many years, I let the hatred I have for people who wronged me get the best of me. I wanted them to feel my pain. But what I could only do was to curse them over and over again. However, the time came when I realized that what I was doing only made things worse. My hatred was burning me inside and my burden was more difficult to bear. 

losing myself, over giving

I seem to always attract spongers into my life. It came to a point that I believed that this was one of my missions in this world— to keep on sharing my blessings with everyone even if it drains the life out of me. But I have to put an end to this because I realize that I am just fooling myself, trying to escape from the truth that I am being abused by others because I am such an over-giver. I was compromising my well-being for the sake of being too nice and too kind.


Depression is common and unavoidable. Often when people are in this situation, they are not themselves and could not think right. They lose their appetite for life, their “joie de vivre”. With depression it seems that everything has no meaning.

one year after quitting smoking

If you recall, my previous posts were about my journey to quitting smoking—from the moments I failed at stopping, the instances I struggled with withdrawal symptoms to my success at completely letting go of the habit.

Are you a Chronic Complainer? Effective Ways to Stop Complaining and Start Acting

Every day, we hear what seems to be an endless stream of complaints. Complaints about the ever increasing prices of goods, worsening traffic, low income, government anomalies, and even about the issues and things that we shouldn’t worry about in the first place. Aren’t we getting fed up of all these qualms and worries?

“Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain.” ~ Vivian Greene

It’s been almost one year since I stopped smoking. In this post, I will share how I kept myself motivated despite the temptations and challenges (ie. Being surrounded with smokers, diverting my cravings to junk foods, and resorting to stress eating) while I was trying to quit the habit.

How to Earn Respect from Others

I used to think that I will only gain respect from others if I will do well in life. But despite of my hard work and what I did for other people, I still didn’t earn the respect that I wanted. Some of the people I considered friends just made fun of me, while others treated me like a doormat. It got so bad that I reached a point when I even lost respect for myself.

Creating Your Best Year – 10 Tips for Setting Goals and Attaining Them
A lot of us don’t know what we want in life. That’s why even if we work hard, we still can’t seem to find a sense of fulfillment or direction. But how can we know the right path to take if we don’t know the destination we want to reach?


Aris Moreno is the owner of, a blog that aims to inspire and motivate people to be positive and happy. Life was not easy for him in the past and he went through different problems, but because of a positive disposition, he was able to rise up and overcome his trials. These experiences became his guide and inspiration to write meaningful articles in his blog. For him, being able to give direction and encouragement to others is what gives him genuine joy and happiness. It’s also his way of giving glory back to God for all the blessings that he continues to receive.

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