I always end up with failed relationships. What should I do?

Aug 10, 2015

Ask Aris
Why do the men I date always end up leaving me? Is it because I already have a child out of wedlock?


My Advice

Don’t ever think that being a mother is the reason why the men you dated left you. The right guy for you will eventually come and he definitely wouldn’t leave you just because you already have a child prior to the relationship. Just be patient in waiting. Don’t force it and don’t rush into a new relationship just for the sake of being with someone.

Instead of searching for a new man to love, try focusing on more important things such as your career. Don’t let your mind revolve on finding love for now. As I’ve said, it will come. It will arrive in a time that you least expect it. For now, the best you can do is focus on your other priorities and enrich the quality of your life and that of your child.

Also, remember that “forever” is not an assurance in love. Everything is subject to end. What’s important is learning how to enjoy every moment spent with the person you love and creating beautiful memories. At the end of the day, what’s important is that you learn how to love and you have been loved in return.

Keep in mind that a person is not an object that you can own. If a person leaves you, you can’t do anything but to move on. Yes, you can fight for the love you have for them, but that will only work if they are also willing to start over again. But if you think you’ve already done everything yet they already gave up, there’s no reason left to press on.

It’s difficult to go through break-ups and you have every right to grieve the end of a relationship for days, weeks, months, and even years. But remember that life doesn’t simply end at that. Always remember that the right person will come at the right time. You only have one life, and there’s no sense in dwelling in the negative things. Nothing is permanent in this world. Everything is subject to change. As I’ve said, what’s important is to enjoy each moment in life and to rise up after each failure.


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Aris Moreno is the owner of www.theoptimistblog.com, a blog that aims to inspire and motivate people to be positive and happy. Life was not easy for him in the past and he went through different problems, but because of a positive disposition, he was able to rise up and overcome his trials. These experiences became his guide and inspiration to write meaningful articles in his blog. For him, being able to give direction and encouragement to others is what gives him genuine joy and happiness. It’s also his way of giving glory back to God for all the blessings that he continues to receive.

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